Today this precious girl is four!
I can't believe we have been privileged enough to celebrate three birthdays with her. It seems surreal. Only a few short weeks after she moved in she turned two. And when I look back at that little girl, I can't believe how far we've come. As a family, as a mom and daughter, as a team.
She has come so far. She was such a scared and hurt little girl when she arrived. She had suffered far more than I even knew at that point.
And now I look at her and I am just overwhelmed with the goodness of God. How far he has brought her (and us) in such a short time. How much He has shown me through her.
Today is a special day for her in so many ways. Last night I let her stay up (because her and I watch the Voice together, for a bit.) and I started talking to her about her story. And reminding her that her birthday is the day we celebrate that she came out of her Niah-Mommy's tummy (name changed). So we talked about her Niah Mommy for a while. And then we settled back in to our show. And I couldn't help but feel a bit overwhelmed. Thinking of all that God has brought this powerful little girl through in such a short time that she has been here. And yet her story is really just beginning.
If you've read this blog for a while you might remember my new years resolutions for my kids... With Laila we decided that this would be the year that she learns her power and preciousness. That we would help her find her voice...
Well, we're nearly five months in and yesterday we had our first public victory!
David went to pick up Laila from school and the teacher pulled him aside. She said, "I am going to ask you a question in front of Laila on purpose so she can hear your answer. Okay?"
We have a little history with the teacher and have asked her to only speak to us about our kids behaviors away from the kids...
"Okay." Said David hesitantly.
She then went on, "Now Dad Laila said that her mom says it is okay for her to hit people... Is that true? Can Laila hit people? Because she said her mommy said she can hit people."
Laila hit a class mate.
It wasn't what we were going for.
But the point is, Laila has found her voice. She is no longer throwing fits, or acting like an infant. She is no longer crying and pointing when she has a need, and she is no longer letting people hurt her.
She is using her voice!
(Now obviously we had to remind her that we don't hit our friends when they knock over our castle. We use our words.... And reminded her that the only time it is okay to push people is if they will not stop hurting your body when you ask them to. You see, we all do this with most 18-36 month olds. They hit, because they are learning how to tell people how they like to be treated. It's a normal developmental stage. Unfortunately Laila never felt that anyone would listen to her boundaries about her body... So we are teaching her now that she is precious and powerful, and you can read more about it here.)
So today we celebrate this amazing little girl and the story she has yet to write with her amazing life. We love you Laila Lou and we are so honored to be Mommy and Daddy.
An Interview with Laila:
What is your Favorite color?
Who is your favorite sibling?
Charli because she is getting bigger like that.
What is your favorite thing to do?
What is your favorite food?
Ummm.... Strawberries, and skittles, and jelly beans.
Tell me about the most amazing thing you've ever done.
Eat candy and eat strawberries.
Is there anything else you want to tell people on your birthday?
Yes. I want to tell them that I am getting a new chair for you.