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Before I had kids, I thought that I would one day let them "cry it out". Then we had my daughter and I wanted to respond to her no matter what. We ended up giving in and trying CIO one time when my daughter was 6 months of age, and her crying broke my heart... We've never done it again since, and she's now 3.5 (great sleeper) and have a 2 year old that we've never done it with. I also fully believe that God responds to our cries no matter what- we should also respond to our babies. They are "the least of these" that Jesus talks about- whatever we do to them, we are doing to Jesus!! Thank you for sharing!!!<br />This blog also has a great Christian perspective on cry-it-out! http://parentingfreedom.com/cry-it-out/Sylvia RN MSN NP-Cnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2668203388649319212.post-45017245657159355292014-01-16T13:59:07.160-07:002014-01-16T13:59:07.160-07:00Sorry--typo--I had three critiques. :)Sorry--typo--I had three critiques. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2668203388649319212.post-34666845697377635632014-01-16T13:58:25.422-07:002014-01-16T13:58:25.422-07:00I love your opinion here. But I have two critiques...I love your opinion here. But I have two critiques--Your title would lead one to believe you just spoke on behalf of God. I don't think there is any scriptural foundation for you to make the claim that this is "God's way" one way or another. <br /><br />Secondly--I felt SO much shame reading this post. If I were a father/mother who did allow their child to cry it out--I would feel incredible amount of undeserved guilt. I think you could have accomplished this by simply being FOR this method, with no need to shame yourself or others for choosing a different path.<br /><br />And thirdly--the research you cited was hardly scientifically referenced. You paraphrased and didn't actually link to any scientific data to back up your claims. <br /><br />Sorry, but I highly disagree here. <br /><br />Let's all be very careful when we claim to speak on behalf of God. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2668203388649319212.post-17333322124078798632014-01-07T08:26:20.681-07:002014-01-07T08:26:20.681-07:00Thank you for your brilliance with this. I have ha...Thank you for your brilliance with this. I have had this argument with my brother and sis-in-law and I realize it's not my place. I'll just be there for their son as he grows older. My son is so self-assured and he trusts the world and the universe. I NEVER let him cry it out. It just sounds silly to even say that. Thank you thank you thank you. I shared it with a friend on FB who was posting that he couldn't sleep because his one year old was screaming in her crib "refusing" to go to bed. If you can't be there for your baby - don't have a baby.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2668203388649319212.post-19175773518335483192013-12-10T14:13:20.597-07:002013-12-10T14:13:20.597-07:00Thank you so much Amanda! This post is wonderful i...Thank you so much Amanda! This post is wonderful it is nice to see others in the world that feel the same as myself and my husband. We had our LO 2 months early so she was in the NICU for 3weeks which we had to follow the Hospital rules, very hard for us. But we are a family that does not believe in CIO, we believe in Love and Patience with Gods Support and Loving. LOTS OF CUDDLES!!!! LOTS OF KISSES!!!! LOTS OF LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE AND COMFORT!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2668203388649319212.post-58666791829152740722013-11-23T22:14:29.967-07:002013-11-23T22:14:29.967-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Andihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03427083039276649574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2668203388649319212.post-7287396648806578062013-11-21T13:18:58.796-07:002013-11-21T13:18:58.796-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Amanda Purvishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09550898631571924054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2668203388649319212.post-20242304243104603702013-11-21T10:49:00.860-07:002013-11-21T10:49:00.860-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Andihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03427083039276649574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2668203388649319212.post-22829463617595350502013-11-20T19:21:37.042-07:002013-11-20T19:21:37.042-07:00Oh wow! What a wonderful post! Thank you for being...Oh wow! What a wonderful post! Thank you for being BRAVE and speaking the truth. A friend posted your blog on Facebook. :) Glad to find it! We have 8 children, some home grown and some grafted into our family through adoption. :)<br />But crying it out.... oh my, just couldn't ever do it. We made plenty of other mistakes along the way! :) Our oldest is 35 and youngest 13. We have 11 grand babies now and life is full of adventure!Christie Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09738612207150868577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2668203388649319212.post-3185933998046639752013-08-14T07:59:28.053-06:002013-08-14T07:59:28.053-06:00Great post, what you said is really helpful to me....Great post, what you said is really helpful to me.I agree with you anymore. I have been talking with my friend. Keep up with your good work, I would come back to you.<br /><br /><a href="https://www.starthealthystayhealthy.in/birth/articles/sleep%E2%80%8E" rel="nofollow">How To Make Babies Sleep</a><br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17310610511253302756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2668203388649319212.post-83058435022802815212013-08-07T06:15:46.342-06:002013-08-07T06:15:46.342-06:00First of all, as a father of four young children, ...First of all, as a father of four young children, I wanted to establish the fact that I am grateful for your insights and that you put them down into words on your blog. However, I agree with Dawn. Is there any way you can edit this blog and add sources? (e.g. citations for "the largest, percent-wise, area of growth in a woman's body while she is pregnant is the synapsis in her brain for hearing", and the other "several studies" you mentioned.) I know this blog entry isn't being turned in to be graded, but as a college professor, I would have marked you down considerably for failure to cite your sources. It is very important to support and validate your claims.Davidnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2668203388649319212.post-11129569128520325152013-07-24T23:05:04.028-06:002013-07-24T23:05:04.028-06:00I love the line that says, "When we do not re...I love the line that says, "When we do not respond to our children's cry the only thing we teach them is that their voice does not matter to us.". We really need to respond to our babies when they cry because they need affection as well. Even if they're not really aware of what's going on, they still have feelings and emotions too.Josefina Gusengfaohttp://www.topchoicebabystrollers.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2668203388649319212.post-61038595584397689772013-07-10T23:11:27.552-06:002013-07-10T23:11:27.552-06:00oh how i loved this post, amanda. God gave mamas g...oh how i loved this post, amanda. God gave mamas gut feelings for a reason. i believe so much in not a "specific" type of parenting, but to follow what God has put in my heart and not to go against it no matter what any "professional" recommends.<br /><br />laneynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2668203388649319212.post-19647155802900844012013-06-24T22:42:14.852-06:002013-06-24T22:42:14.852-06:00It looks like you did a lot of research and have t...It looks like you did a lot of research and have the personal experience to prove this. I am absolutely on your side, though I am not yet a mother. I'm a 24-year-old preschool teacher and a nearly-graduated Child Development major. All my studies agree with you as well. I would like to see some of your sources though, if possible. This is an issue I'm currently studying and about to write a paper on, so any research would be great to have! Sadly, I can't site a blog. Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15444822505085574031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2668203388649319212.post-42944774153670173762013-06-07T14:02:19.367-06:002013-06-07T14:02:19.367-06:00I commented above about reliving early childhood e...I commented above about reliving early childhood experiences. Something came to my mind after I posted it, something I had forgotten. One of periods in which I was grappling with letting my first child cry-it-out, a very comforting song came on the radio. It was "Esther" by Esterlyn. It had a line in there that said, "He holds the children throughout the night," and ironically I took it as a "sign" that God was giving me his approval on the crying it out, giving me his comfort and reassurance that he would be there with my child and make it okay.<br /><br />It wasn't until a year or so later that a better interpretation occurred to me. I do hope and believe God was there for my child, but why not ME be there for my child?? If we as parents show the love of God to our children, what are we showing them by leaving them feeling such aloneness and terror?<br /><br />I think some people become defensive when someone says you might be doing or have done something wrong as a mom. And I get that, because as a mom being a "good mom" is the most important and deeply felt thing. But God has helped me to see that I am a "good mom," no matter what, because I'm doing my best and there is grace for my mistakes, not only for me, but for my kids. I have made a lot of mistakes, and keep making them, as I'm working out a lot of anger issues, but I've had to get comfortable with being weak and start to realize that my children are in good hands with their heavenly father. I don't think for a moment that children who had to cry it out--whether from good intentions or not--will have some sort of life-long handicap, especially when trusted into the hands of God. But at the same time it doesn't do any good to pretend something is okay when it really isn't. A long time ago when someone was sick, they "bled" the person. EVERYONE believed in it, especially the doctors who wanted to heal people. But it wasn't helping like they thought; it was hurting. I imagine they would have been defensive too if someone tried to tell them the truth. - Bethany H.<br /><br />I just looked up the lyrics to that song ("Esther" by Esterlyn), and here I will post them:<br /><br />He heals the broken hearted,<br />He binds their wounds,<br />He is Love,<br /><br />He finds those forgotten,<br />Those who've been abused,<br />He is Love,<br /><br />He knows your name,<br /><br />A Farther to the fartherless,<br />A healer of the brokeness,<br />You make, beauty from the ashes,<br /><br />A helper to helpless,<br />A fighter for the hopeless,<br />You Love, those who are alone.<br /><br />He comforts the lonely,<br />He hears their cry,<br />He is Love,<br /><br />He holds the children,<br />Through out the night,<br />He is Love,<br /><br />He knows your name,<br /><br />A Farther to the Fatherless,<br />A healer of the brokeness,<br />You make, beauty from the ashes,<br /><br />A helper to the helpless,<br />A fighter for the hopeless,<br />You Love, those who are alone,<br /><br />Give us your Heart Lord,<br />Help us Love, the unseen,<br /><br />And give us your eyes Lord,<br />Help us Love, those in need,<br /><br />You're a Farther of the Fartherless,<br />A healer of the brokeness,<br />You make, beauty from the ashes,<br /><br />Your a helper to helpless,<br />A fighter for the hopeless,<br />You Love, those who are alone,<br /><br />He knows your name,<br />He knows your name<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2668203388649319212.post-1137251667039162212013-06-07T13:30:36.247-06:002013-06-07T13:30:36.247-06:00Some people may wonder how we can tell what the ba...Some people may wonder how we can tell what the baby is really feeling, since they don't *remember,* but I just wanted to say that I've been going through healing for a while and have gotten in touch with "memories," I guess you can say, of my early childhood. They are not really memories, but more like feelings, word thoughts and impulses, that if I allow myself to experience, it brings release and healing.<br /><br />Here is an example. Have you ever seen a child cry so hard that they actually stop breathing for a moment before they finally suck air back in? One time, I was crying and getting in touch with a "younger part" of myself. At first I felt like holding a stuffed animal. I felt so alone and sad, and I just wanted to hold something soft. But I felt like I went "younger" and all I could do was lay on my back and thrash my head side to side while raising my arms for "someone." The cries were so strong that I just had to keep pushing out the cry until I literally had no more air. I could feel what "the baby" was feeling. I felt very strongly that I needed LOVE more than I needed air. (Forgive the all caps; it't the only way to give emphasis). I needed it like my very life. I needed it more than life. I needed somebody to COME GET ME to COME BACK. And I was helpless there, just NEEDING. I've never felt feelings more real than in experiences like this, and I am thankful for them. It has helped me to understand what love is and to even be able to love more. Love is BEING THERE. Love is TOUCH. Love always comes back. Love doesn't leave you. I have learned this through experience. I am deeply grateful.<br /><br />Going through these things has gradually changed the way I parent. I let my first one cry it out, though I was very conflicted. I really wanted to do the right thing. With this second one, I cannot bare it anymore. She gets loved to sleep every night (nursing and rocking) and then she comes to bed with me when I go to bed. She nurses when she wants to, and my heart feels so full. I love every moment I can attend to her. I have come to learn that love isn't just not doing the wrong things, it's EVERY MOMENT you can be there and express that love. Children need love like they need air. The more of it they get the better. I apologize if this offends anyone. I wasn't sure if I wanted to write it, but I figured my experience is pretty unique, so why not put it out there. Some people will probably appreciate it. Share and re-post as you wish - Bethany H.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2668203388649319212.post-36507453272674523782013-06-05T16:00:42.584-06:002013-06-05T16:00:42.584-06:00There is a huge difference between "crying it...There is a huge difference between "crying it out" and complete neglect. Your "scientific evidence" and argument don't even consider the many waking hours that us "selfish" moms attend to our baby's needs and cries. I don't think it's fair to assume moms who let their kids cry for a few minute when they need to sleep are guilty of abuse.Karamianoreply@blogger.com